In writing this book I hope to bring you back home to the essence and safe harbor of your inner being, reuniting you with the person you were born to be and the life you were meant to live. But what really matters is the authentic person behind the mask, that we are seen and recognized for who we truly are. Like Jayne, most of us adopt a persona - a word that originates from the Greek for mask. I need to be reminded of the me that has become lost. I know the real me is different, waiting to get out and be braver, less afraid of being hurt, less worried about the judgments of others, less afraid of taking on the world, desperate to laugh and dance again. I don’t want to be this person I’ve created and become. Jayne told me:Īll I want is to be myself again, act like myself again, feel like myself again. In that regard, I am reminded of a woman who sought me out to help rediscover a lost connection to the real person who, she said, had mysteriously disappeared during her marriage. Along the way, we’ve picked up and collected traits and acceptable responses that are deemed the norm, so there’s always a tendency to act as we believe we should act, or how we’ve been trained to act, all the time keeping our inner beings bound and gagged. Millions of us parade as someone other than our true selves without even realizing it, adopting an acting personality shaped by the conditioning of our pasts and the judgments, expectations, and rules of others. Instead, conformity and responsibility in adulthood have combined to distort or shrink our true natures. It’s as though the naturalness and authenticity with which we were all born - and which we unleashed with unaffected abandon as children - have been crushed, repressed, or even disallowed. It’s as though we have forgotten our unique individuality in the collective rush to be all things to all people, to fit the picture-perfect portrayals in magazines, television dramas, and movies. Psychologists the world over would say that millions of people pass through life without ever realizing what constitutes their true self. The problem is this: how many of us know what being ourselves actually means? Who is this "true self - the private inner being that hides behind the mask it wears for most public interactions, that real person we are when stripped of our ego and acts of social graces aimed at winning respect, approval, or popularity? There is always someone armed with that well-intentioned advice: Don’t worry, just be yourself and everything will be fine!" How many times have we heard that? It’s often said to help ease a nervous first date, a daunting social invitation, or the first day on a new job. You should write a book about this one day." "I wanted to dismiss Human Design as cobblers,īut you read me to the point where I couldn’t deny it.
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